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It started off some weeks ago when some white guy started to post racistic comments on the pics of my black sweetheart. At first I just ignored all of this cause guys like this normally just quiet when you don't pay attention to them. But when I kept sending assulting messages, I reported this abuse to VibesConnect. This was about a month ago. But after reporting it, nothing changed. I blocked him but then he just leaves racistic comments on my page. Apparently VibesConnect doesn't take action cause after reporting this some person for a second time two weeks ago, I still get those comments from him! I think it is time for VibesConnect to read their terms again cause I remembered reading something like accounts being deleted when you violate the terms (and racism was one them!)....

Yesterday evening the brother of some close friends of mine was kidnapped when he was playing soccer at a square close to their home. When he was found back the next day, no charges have been pressed to the kidnapper. The main reason was because the kidnapper was a white young adult and the Nigerian mother didn't want to cause racial hate. When I was browsing the web later the evening, I found a lot of reactions on the article that was discussing his disappereance. 99% of the comments where racistic comments from white people. Sometimes I really ask myself what happened to the world... People are just judging on the skin color. We are all human. Stop hating. We all want to be respected. They aren't different then we. They also go to work, pay taxes, ... Stop the hating...

makaveli zegt: i can see your skinny ass boy on the screen makaveli zegt: i can crush him with my single hand " He belongs to me, do not waste your time " zegt: bla bla bla. you need to get a life and grow up. we aduld girls got better tings to do then play with kids like you. End of conversation. I'm busy makaveli zegt: someone is getiing scared makaveli zegt: *poop signs* " He belongs to me, do not waste your time " zegt: no someone is STUDYING! makaveli zegt: *lmao* makaveli zegt: i want some beef " He belongs to me, do not waste your time " zegt: I got better things to do then babysit makaveli zegt: u cant earn much in baBy sitting,why are you doing that makaveli zegt: why can u find urself a job " He belongs to me, do not waste your time " zegt: Don't need a job. Straight A student at university so I don't need jobs makaveli zegt: end up being a losser or a bitch at the red light " He belongs to me, do not waste your time " zegt: A lawyer makaveli zegt: *poop sign + lmao* " He belongs to me, do not waste your time " zegt: what so funny? some poeple (like me) got the LOOKS, BRAINS and MONEY. and some people end up as a welder " He belongs to me, do not waste your time " zegt: Oh yh. I forgot! you are a welder! " He belongs to me, do not waste your time " zegt: poor poor guy CONFERSATION BETWEEN ME AND A GUY DISRESPECTING PACS NAME. WHERE IS THE RESPECT FOR WOMEN? IS THIS WHAT YOU GET FOR BEING A STRONG INDEPENDANT WOMAN? (his e-mail is bramkelly@hotmail.com in case y'all want a covo with him)...

ashlee, 14/02/07 [ http://vibesconnect.com/ashlee_banks ] haha wat tha ...this G is busssssssss ...bout only black mens I duno wha half these men r thinkin ..only man U gona get is a white man wid glasses that is overweight hunny...hahahah dun killl me. ... Da_Gangstress, 15/02/07 To Ashlee: Go ahead girl! Keep hatin' and dissin' me. Show them your ignorence. Haters are in fact your biggest fans, so as a matter of fact: Keep inspiring me to keep doin' my thang cause you prouve that I am THE BEST in what I do, cause if I wasn't the best, then you wouldn't send me this sh*t!...

"hello sexyy,you seems so nice and beauty in your pics,but i wanna see more of you,you must be perfect when you are naked and i wanna see your naked boddy too much, if you have got a web cam pls add me in your messenger ok, my messengers; yama25m@yahoo.com (yahoo messenger) yama25m@hotmail.com (msn messenger) i m waiting your answer,and i like youu so muchh, i kisss youuuuuu" (writen by http://vibesconnect.com/yama25mm) I am really getting sick of this! You guys really think this is still funny??? Well you know what: we woman had to fight to be respected and still we are humiliated and disrespected. We are not just meat! If you want to be respacted, then show some respect too. If you don't show some respect, then don't expect respect neither....

I can only speak for myself but I am really getting bothered with stuff that happens! There are guys (I'm not gon generalise, but most of the males over here) don't take the time to read someone’s profile! They just see a girl’s picture and send them messages about how good they look and that they want to know you. Maybe some girls will be flattered if they received hundreds of messages like that a day but I am not. I am more then the way I look. I don't like guys that only choose a girl based on the way she looks. I give my friends (who I know, meaning: knowing their personality, interests, basically their whole life) comments when they look good but those comments got another meaning then the comments strange people are giving me. So basically these kinds of men are not interested in personality, interests, ... So for all the men that are reading this and sending me messages probably will get a reply because they prove that men do read profiles! Cause that it what this is all about: if most men would take the time to read the profile, 90% wouldn't send a message! (The other 10% are the men that are reading this). I reply to all the message I am getting as long as they aren't superficial or showing obvious signs that the person didn't read my profile. Most messages that ending up in my trash can contain things like this (all the men who want a response: read carefully): (1) When they are addressing me as their sweetheart, honey, darling, baby, etc... (2) if it is a sexual orientated note: telling me how good he can make me feel, tell me what he is working with, etc... (3) if he gives me his phone number, e-mail address, ... in the first message (4) obvious signs that he did not read my profile. On the other hand, there are also some things that can guarantee you a response (1) if you ask a question that shows you read the profile or a question about interests (2) knowing how to address a message in a personal way without getting too familiar (like sweetheart,... ) (3) writing a message that really shows your personality, intelligence (and that doesn't mean you must have a PhD) (4) don't expect me to drop everything, meaning: if I am not replying in 5 minutes please it does not mean I am not going to reply, it is probably because I did not read your message yet due to the 90% that is filling my inbox. So please don't send me mad messages if it takes some days before I reply. So get it?? Got it?? Good!!!...

There are like certain things that make me like f*cking pissed! I think I made myself clear in the intro on my page and still I got like guys sending me messages like “After reading your profile I am so interested in you and I really want to f*ck with you. Here are my e-mail addresses and you must add me. And I expect a phone call from you too.” This is like a perfect example that they did NOT read my profile! I do not give my address to strangers straight away so if your first message contains your e-mail address or is a demand for my e-mail address then forget about it! Second example: “Wow you are so sexy and I must f*ck you, you know, right in you’re a**!” Guys this ain’t a site where you can look for sex dates! Go look on Google and you’ll find some! So please stop sending me those messages. I get like 200 messages a day like this and it just takes a lot of time to just all open them, read all the crap and then delete them. Plus you guys are occupying space in my mailbox so this means that nice people (the ones who are interesting to talk to) can’t contact me anymore. Third example (this one was send by http://www.vibesconnect.com/Smailo): first the guy was like telling me he has read my till the last word so I went to check out his profile. What I found out proved like the opposite of what he was telling. A) as I stated in my profile; I am only interested in black guys and he ain’t black; B) then he asked straight for my e-mail address and like I said before: I do NOT give my e-mail address to anyone without getting to know each other first. I’m not saying I never give my e-mail address to anyone but just send some messages first, let me get to know you and then I will decide if it is a match or not. Respect my privacy a little bit please! So this is the answer I got from the guy after I told him that it is impossible that he had read my profile: “lol okay then , i don't mind. i think you r too young and you need to grow up a bit . so bey. and i promise i won't try again with grls under 20, when you got 20 ask for me ok?!! bey. i won't read or reply at your message so don't wast your time . ------------------- In Reply To --------------------- From: Da_Gangstress Date: Saturday 20, 2007 19:01 WHAT I THINK IS THAT YOU ARE JUST BULLSHITTING ME. IF YOU REALLY READ MY PROFILE YOU WOULD HAVE NOTICED THAT I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU CAUSE: A) MORROCANS AREN'T BLACK B) I HATE IT WHEN STRANGERS ARE ASKING FOR MY E-MAIL ADDRESS. (IF I WANTED IT, I WOULD HAVE ASKED FOR IT) SO TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION: NO I DON'T THINK IT WOULD BE BETTER!” (too bad I deleted the first part already) What I want to make clear is that I love black boys and that I am not interested in other races. I know what I want and if that makes me childish, so be it. I know what I want and I’m not wasting my time and their time when I do not see any chance that there is a match! And by the way if they guy reads this: if you weren’t interested in the first place why sending me a f*cking message? Stuff like this is making me mad and it ain’t fun anymore. Every day my mailbox is full and I only get like 10 decent messages. Sometimes it takes days before I an reply to the ones that are interested just because I have to read all the crap too. Maybe put something in your title that shows that you really have read my profile and are willing to discuss about serious matters. That would make it much easier for me and it will also make it possible for me to reply much faster. So just to recap my basic “rules” A) you must be BLACK B) no bullsh*t about sex and stuff like that C) it’s nice that you tell me I’m good looking, I do it too sometimes (to break the ice) but please continue with something intellectual D) don’t send me your e-mail address the first time (same for the ones that are interested: I’ll add you later on but first get to know me) and don’t ask for mine in the first message So for the ones that are interesting to talk to, I’m not a bitch! I know what I want and I go for it. And I would make a scene out of it if it are just like one or two guys a day but this ain’t normal anymore! The fun is off! PS: A) Sorry for my language B) No I am not a racist, just don’t want to waste my time on stuff like this. I realised that I only feel a connection with black guys so let it be....