VibesConnect.com - A place to meet people, chat, create communities, blogs of friends for dating, business, travel, ring tone ringtone, music, videos

We all are definately born with good and bad characteristics in our personality- but as to the question of does a woman knows what a good man looks like- probably not!! Speaking only from my point of view- sometimes as we grow up, we are sometimes led to believe certain things can mean good - such as fame, looks, money and tha other kinda materialistic values that can come with it!!So- if women are lookin out for men, with these types of influences, it makes it difficult to recognize a good man!!Where u mentioned that GOd rules the world is a valid part- but u know when hormones take over tha thought process, it all goes a bit haywire!!! RESPECTABILITY is truly high on this gal's list as a priority of a good man!! A good man would be an individual who is genuine in his thoughts, in his actions, in his love in his care for a woman!! Valid topic that u brought up !

OH BY THE WAY. THIS GOES OUT TO ALL WHO ARE SERIOUSLY REPLYING. I RUN THIS SHOW IGHT. Much love.

AND MUCH PROPS TO EYE CANDii CECE i can't believe this girl is just 16 but has wisdom twice beyond her age. i applaud that. we need sistahs starting to get connected to wisdom at that tender age so when they get much older they won't settle not for less but for problems. Good head on her shoulders. Keep doing what you're doing.

WOW NOW THATS HONESTY FROM ANGELZGAL1. Thanks for your comments. i must admit you brought up some real good points that i never thought of, cause im not a woman. but thanks for your perspective. lets see if there are any of your sistrens that disagree with you. or agree with what you said

to answer your first question: that type of woman is not looking for a good man as much as a man that looks good and is well off financially... the main question's answer is... for most women...nope...they wouldn't know a good man if he stood right in front of them with neon lights saying "i'm a good man"...truth is, this happens to most women...women ask for a good man but when he comes along they are either still hung up on the man before him...or they think he is weak cause he is soft spoken or in touch with his feelings (not that he is gay/bi)...some women tend to want the guy who gives them hell...or the typical bad boy...the same man that continues to hurt their feelings... the sad thing is that most women won't be ready for a good man when he comes around...cause they won't be willing or ready to change how they become...meaning they have dated men below there standards and morals mostly because they dont want to be lonely...which causes them to view men in a different light...after women have dated at least 10 men like this...by time Mr. Good comes along their viewpoint of a good man is warped...therefore they will mis-understand him (a good man) altogether...and wont be ready for what he has to offer A GOOD MAN IS ONE WHO RESPECTS HIMSELF AND HIS MOTHER THEREFORE HE WILL AUTOMATICALLY RESPECT OTHERS... your character will speak for itself ...we all have imperfections...let's not harp on them, but look at the good in one another and build up each other in the areas which needs work with love and kindness... spoken from a woman who have passed up a few good men...

I AM THE ONE WHO POSED THIS QUESTION BECAUSE I REALLY WANT TO KNOW HOW BLACK WOMEN THINK. BECAUSE... I'LL START OFF BY SAYING THIS, REAL CAN ONLY RECOGNIZE REAL, TO FIND A REAL BLACK MAN YOU FIRST HAVE TO BE A REAL BLACK WOMAN. I SEE THE IMPOSTERS AND THEY'RE NOT HAPPY LIVING WITH OUR MALE COUNTERPARTS. BUT TO THEM I WISH THEM GOOD LUCK. PLEASE continue to read... I just feel that if a black woman is looking for a good black man she wouldn't be looking in his pockets but rather around that area, you see imma be real with you all. White men have money true but most of them have no clue as to how to please a woman especailly a black woman. Some black women who date these white men go for the next best thing which would keep them comfortable which is their wallet. Me personally i rather that situation because there is a limit to my money but not to my manhood and pleasuring. I could always make money or make millions but getting a natural length of women pleasuring is something you'd have to again pay a doctor to add on. and another things sex is more than intercourse its spiritual and emotional and a black mans emotional sexual power is undefineable and uncontained nor tamed. Black woman realise you have a diamond in the ruff. Really and trully i wouldn't want a black woman who's used to living in this white mans world where money rules the world rather than God rulling the world. because when you think about it money is whats killing the world, there is potential to heal the world with money but as humans or white humans, its all about kapitalizing, konquering and killling THE 3 K'S or should i say the kkk method to gain power. Now the black man is looked upon as a threat because our strength is so strong that we don't need to do what most insecure people do which is to prove their strength. We were kings. There is nothing left for a black man to prove accept his love for himself and his woman. We need to understand that a WHITE MANS WORLD is about money A BLACK MANS WORLD is about LOVE and BLACK MAN IS GOD! ONE LOVE Y'ALL.

Well if those women are looking at a man solely on how much money he has...they are lookin for someone who can support them financially...that has nothing to do with being a good man or not (as much as they would like you to believe). To me, (although i am only sixteen)lol, women who determine how serious a relationship gets by how much money the man earns makes women as a whole look bad. Because any rich man would be very suspicious when a woman knows his financial status and he may think she is a goldigger, even if her intentions to love HIM are genuine. To put it all in a nutshell, those women aren't looking for a good man...maybe they are..but THAT's not the MAIN characteristic... Yuh feel me? Bahama Mama CeCe

Well......I can only talk for myself....and I do not go after a man's wallet or what he drives or what he does for a living! All men have the potential to be a good man. A good man to me is someone that has a self-confident about who he is without being obnoxious or vain. Who knows how to treat a woman, whether he works as a Carpenter or a Stockbroker.....its all in the attitude. Treating a woman right does not mean buying fancy things so she can show off to people, it could be simple things that don't need no money, such as a picnic in the park, long walk to enjoy each other company and such things. Also he knows his responsibilites and does not waiver from it. To me a good man is someone that growns everyday within himself mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And he knows what RESPECT means in every aspects, because many people forget, both men and women that "actions speak louder then words", so instead of stating you are a good man, show me that you are.