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well if the man say that he have someone already and the woman on the side make the decission to go along with it what is your problem with that--this is nor right but it do happens for a lot of reasons-----1 there are millions of men in prison--2 there are many homosexual men--so there are many women who will settle for half a man cause sometimes she just can't find one who is not already involved--and on the other hand there are some women that have more than one men too why you may ask?--just because she can---ladys is pimp too --go on brush your shoulders off.

At least a guy is honest when he tell a lady that he has a woman at home, because you have many guys who do not, so then it is up to her whether she want to get involve. If she want to get involved then it up to her what happened in the long run. Plus I believe women have this hate for each other that stem from centuries of mistrust between women. I mean how many friends have slept with a friend's man? I mean a girl would sleep with her friend's man and majority of the time the woman would stay with the man and never speak with her friend again. You are treated how you let a person treat you and that is the truth even if most people do not want to accept it. Some men and women want to me numba two because they do not want the hassle of a real relationship, they just want a guy or girl to be there for the physical and not emotional side of things. Plus some people go for what they think they can get, some feel they can't find no matter so they go for the left overs or the left behind.

well what u hear is the truth and yes it can go both ways but either side need not settle 4 less.....how bout that~!

lmao....u say it like women don't do the same thing....i don't see y so many women talk about how men do this and that like niggas just do it all alone.....i mean what about the women that not only allow themselves to be in the situation but won't mess wit somebody unless they're taken? read a blog not long ago speakin on the female bein in a relationship and all of a sudden another female goin 4 her dude even though she ain't wanna get down when he was single.....u talk about settling 4 less but let's be honest about it....just cause a person is female doesn't always mean she's big shit

Micky..... Thanks for ur input from a mans point of view! But I think this message should go for both men and women dont you think?

There is another spin on it for me.Women may elect to be number 2, as in most case they are looking for a better deal whilst holding on to their existing man.They are trying to play the field to see if they can find a man to provide for them(financially.) Sometimes women have some good men,however,because she wants much more she elect to see someone else on the side.In the minority of cases,this is done for a sexual need.Ppl are always on the look out for a better deal, and men take advantage of these "women", as sometimes women sell themselves too short.You can see desperation in a woman's demeanor,when her trifling ass is hustling or just trying to get a benefit from you.

well i dont no what to say 4 her but KEEP HER HEAD UP... always some 1 out there just wait until the time comes it will come in due time..

Another take on women settling for Numba 2... I saw a chat comment that one lady lost her husband to a Numba2.. She divorced him, 11yrs of marriage gone. After dating for 6 yrs, she wasn't into casual sex. Another 8 years went by without the touch of a man. One day after being hugged by co-worker she knew was married. She was overcome with emotions to be held. She didn't work at the same site with this co-worker and only saw him every few months. She felt comfort in not submitting herself to stranger, but always knew she was wrong. They had sex 3 times. Its been almost 2 years ago. She now wonders if the 8 year point will be her downfall again. She is 47 and is still not in a relationship.

ur right but some people dont want to admitt that there not numba 1 but really numba 2...

I think many women have played the role of Numba2.. Many women have hoped the man would leave Numba1 for them... But some women have truly accepted the role as a mistress... They get a deep relationship on their terms. They get sex, money and not the problems of an everyday relationship. Some women prefer a physical vice emotional relationship. This has been going on since the beginning of time. Now with the internet women can express themselves anonymously. It is still not acceptable in society for women to openly sleep with another womens man.... Equally men have women on the side. But other than actors and musicians, You don't here professional men go to work and talk about their wife and girlfriend.

I just had an aquinence come up to me and tell me a story so simmular to this blog! I feel Y should a women settle for less when its so much out here in life to get! there is some 1 for everyone and if we all just waitin it it will come ...Blessings same way!

CONGNAC9>>>> thanks for ur words giving on this blog... keep it commin every 1.. speak out loud mek us hear yah...!

The main point of this blog can only be answered by a female that has been a Numba 2 or a male that has had a Numba 2.... Anyone else is just an outside observer. I can speak on seeing it in my family from both males and females. I think someone that is exposed to it and grew up with knowing someone being Numba 2.... May look at it in a different way and be more susceptible to be in a similiar relationship.... Peace YAK

some ooman a hate mi now! there just not liking me blasting them out so they dont want to shout this blog lol! mek dem stay there! (ladys neva settle for less always go 4 the best)

cupiidd &Gramma&Mr_Rowemantic Every one of u are pulling strong points out in this blog and it is time that its said in many different ways than 1. Blessings to each and every 1 of u zeen.!

Let me add my opinion here. I totally agree with Gramma, as long as there are women out there who r willing to give it up then the men r going to take it. Be real face reality women not all women r the same. Some just want to fuck and it doent matter where it comes from, if its a fuck dem want dem is a fuck dem a go get. and trust mi, de man dem ready fi give it to dem. So let us just live and hope one day we will find a solution if there is one.

wifey it's not ya'll world.,.,.remember u guys were made from our rib.,.,.so it's our world.,..,lol.,.,.i like wat ur sayin.,.,it's the truth.,.,.but wat happen is that the lady at home is the wife and she's not goin to do some of the things that the lady outside would do so thats the main reason why men cheat sometime.,.,.,

Wifey you ask why ladies settlin for this even when the man let them know he is married or have a girlfriend. Coming form experience and this is a know fact it gives great joy and pleasure to the outside woman that she sleeping with you man. So when you a walk pon cloud nine say you man naah cheat and him love you only the side woman a laugh say yes watch her nu and me a sleep with her man. Another thing is the side woman have bills to pay so if sleeping with your man can get her bills paid she will. Another one the outside bitch is hoping and praying he will eventually leave you for her so she accepts this and wait , in some case it happens. And the final one check you man HE WILL GO STREET AND TELL THE OUTSIDE WOMAN HOW YOU AT HOME TREATIGN HIM LIKE CRAP WHNE IN SOME CASES IS JUST PLAIN LIE HIM TELLING BUT MEN WILL DO THAT JUST TO LET THE OUTSIDE WOMAN FEEL SORRY FOR HIM. Look a relationship is a hard thing, all you can do is be strong and pray your partner/helpmate love you enough to only play the love game with you alone.

LOOL what the hell are you disagreeing about I read what you wrote and you basically saying the same thing I said just use of different words. Help Mate or Partnership same dam thing and just try know I am only quoting the bible is not me say it is your LORD AND SAVIOUR who said it unless you worshiping some other GOD. Like it or not women were made to be help mates is just some of you women turn lesbian and want to were the pants and put on false DICK. Anyways not to stry form the point of the blog you can tell you mate how you want to be treated and him/ she still play the number game with you. Another thing is how do you know some people are good at hiding things so all when you think you have your mate under controll 2-3 other partners a play with you lover undercover.

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Gramma>>> Bless Thanks 4 ur input and its true satan is loose and aids is loose to!

Have mercy the blog dem sound the same every day. Men will always cheat as long as there is a slut out there willing to give it they will take it. Its not a womens world God created men first and women as HELP MATE. Its just unfortunate that GOOD MEN who should take care of our ladies don't really exist anymore. There is only a handful and the majority is just looking PUSSY. Think is lie me a tell see every blog on here by the ladies is about the PUSSY DIGGERS LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL yes the man dem that is on here looking pussy. Look Satan is loose on the earth there is nothing you or I can do if your lover decides to play the number 2-3 or 4 game just pray you don't catch Aids from them

I dont no bout u! but im not goin that rout and settling for less to Blessed to b 2nd its only far I come 1st!