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Well i just wanted to get someones opinion on the matter. All the guys here dont seem to value frienship. Or maybe they use frienship as a cover up. There is this one intance where a guy wanted to be with me but given the situation he knew it wasnt going to happenso he said we can go on dates an jus have fun i told him i wasnt sure then i told him ok i guess we could then wat piss me off is that he said thathe want to give it two weeks just to see how it go. And i said u cant put a time limit on friendship. He said he did it cus he dosent want to get hurt. then i backed out and said no. now he has me as a heartbreaker. this other guy keep on saying he loves me and i tell him that he dosent know me enough to be in love with me. I keep telling him that and i guess it finally sunk in he start giving me the silent treatment. and the thing is besides that we always have good coversations. That jus goes to show that he doesnt care about the intellectual side of his life he only want to fullfill the physical. I mean even if it never work out the way i want it i would still remain frens just to enjoy a good conversation every now and then. I guess the word friendship is just a cover up to hide there true intensions. And i guess too that in a way i was wrong to lead them into believing that i liked them, but that is not the case they knew about my bf from the begining. And then on the on the other had i guess i got carried away but is not like i do it intentionally...